General Codependency Test
Is there a general codependency test? This test is aimed at helping you identify the degree to which you may be codependent. It is intended to help you identify the degree to which your unhealthy codependent behavior is contributing to the problems in your relationships. If you want a test for codependency that is more focused on alcoholic or drug addict relationships, try this Codependency Test. The information in this web site is intended to be useful for anyone with codependency issues, not just those involved with alcoholics or drug addicts. Unhealthy codependents have difficulty developing and maintaining healthy independence in a relationship. Among other things, this can leads to enabling other people’s bad behavior. The following codependency test will help you identify areas where your codependence may be contributing to the problem. Are you unclear about what codependency is? Read this Codependency page and then come back to this test.
General Codependency Test
- Do you tend to believe people’s promises, even when they have repeatedly broken promises before?
- Do you find yourself making excuses for those you care about in order to protect them from the repercussions of their poor choices?
- Do you give money to people to pay bills that they could and should pay for themselves?
- Do you often feel lonely in your relationships?
- Do you avoid confronting people when they are behaving unacceptably?
- Do you try and fix other people’s problems even if they don’t ask for help?
- Do you have trouble saying no to people without feeling guilty?
- Do you find yourself spying on those you care about?
- Is much of your time spent helping people who you believe need you?
- Do you need to feel needed?
- Do you feel upset or angry if someone tells you that they don’t want your help?
- Has anyone repeatedly told you to stop trying to help them?
- Do you feel responsible for other people’s actions?
- Do you lose sleep worrying about the repercussions of other people’s choices?
- Do you ever remind people that they need you?
- Do you believe that you are obligated to help other people?
- Do you suppress your feelings about other people’s behavior until eventually you explode with anger?
- Do you sometimes feel that other people’s bad choices are your fault?
- Do you enable other people’s bad behavior?
- Have you ever sabotaged other people’s attempts to change their lives?
- Do you every feel ashamed of the people that you help?
- Do you often give advice, even when it is not requested?
How did I do? Did you answer Yes to three or more of these questions? If so, your relationships may be unhealthily codependent. You may want to consider counseling or getting involved with a group such as Codependents Anonymous (CODA). If you don’t address your unhealthy codependence, relationships will likely continue to be unnecessarily painful.
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